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Jun 19, 2023Liked by Holly Starley

Love your writing Holly. The story hit home for me.

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Thank you! I’m really glad to hear that.

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What was the note all about???

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You know, I combed my mind over and over to try and remember specifics when writing this piece. But it was decades ago. I can still see the page (or the way my mind has created the memory of it anyway). It was white lined paper, torn from a notebook. The ink was blue and blotchy as if the pen had been pressed hard. But the words are fuzzy. I'm sure it was an accusation of some mistreatment of her. I think she may have accused me of racism. It probably challenged me to a fight. That was a thing being done back then. I was probably "terribly offended" by such "lies"--far from beginning to develop an understanding of systemic racism and microagressions, from knowing the importance of seeing my own biases, from a grasp of empathy when threatened.

I've looked for her online. But I'm only 50 percent sure I have her name correctly. And if I'm right, it's a fairly generic name. At any rate, no luck.

Thanks for reading! Looking forward to checking out Memories of a Post Grunge Drifter. ;)

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Nice :) Great to get more of the story :) :)

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Jun 20, 2023Liked by Holly Starley

Enjoyed reading your stories, and was delighted to see Irasha's dolls photographed..

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Thank you! And yes, I absolutely love Irasha’s doll project. Those dolls and their scenes are, for me, a great example of the power of subtlety and playfulness and showing over telling--all aspirations for my writing ;). I appreciated her sharing the photo.

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Great story! It's too familiar to me. A boy named Dante and I had a fistfight. For a couple of decades I thought of myself as the hero of the story, but gradually had to admit that I was the jerk. It took so long for me to realize that.

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Thanks and thanks for sharing! It’s such an interesting phenomenon--the way we paint our stories in various lights for all kinds of reasons. I don’t know about you, but I’m glad my understanding evolved toward greater accuracy. And I’m glad to explore my own complicity in a complex system that requires no premeditation to perpetuate but lots to tear down.

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